By Guest Contributor

Every relationship has its ups and downs, but cheating by a partner can sometimes end a relationship abruptly; however, sometimes an affair can bring to light underlying problems that were swept under the rug for too long, which actually can help to promote a positive relationship after the couple works through the affair – oddly enough this is the case for 82% of all relationships who have had an affair.

How is that possibly you ask? How can 82% of relationships where a partner cheated continue to stay together, but also grow and become even closer? Lets face it, most people would leave their partner – but that is prior to them cheating. Of those who have actually been cheated on, most decide to stay in the relationship. They stay because they recognize that there are other problems in the relationship that have caused their partner to stray. They are not meeting the needs of their partner and choose to address these needs by speaking with a phone psychic for relationship insight, or a counselor.

Needs. People, in general, have basic needs that need to be fulfilled. When these needs are not being met, they will seek areas for them to be met. In the case of an intimate relationship, this can mean cheating. Once you understand the basic needs, you can use them to help satisfy your partner’s needs, and also dive deeper into what specifically your partner needs to feel satisfied.

Many people enter a relationship wondering what they will get, rather than what they can give. When you enter a relationship wondering what you can give, you will get what you want in return. Zig Ziglar, the great motivational speaker says, “You can have everything in life you want, if you just help enough other people get what they want.” This can be applied to your intimate relationship as well.

When you are able to give you partner what they want, they will work just as hard to make sure that you are happy. They will make you feel like you are the most important person in their life!

The basic needs that need to be satisfied are simple, you just have to understand them to satisfy. Everyone has the need for Certainty, Uncertainty, Significance, Love and Connection, Growth and Contribution. When you can figure out how to master these needs and apply them to your relationship, you can create the path to bliss, and protect your marriage from infidelity.

Certainty is what you need to make you feel comfortable. What makes you comfortable? What makes your partner comfortable? Most people, for instance, are certain that their children will love them forever, but fear their spouse could leave at any time.

Uncertainty is variety. Variety is the spice of life, right? We need variety and uncertainty to keep us energized and challenged. Without variety, we fall into a routine, a trap of boredom. We need to learn to embrace variety and the uncertain. Many people think they like surprises, but really they only like the surprises they want. They refer to the unwanted surprises as problems!

Significance is how important you feel. We all have a need to feel valued and respected. Many times, couples grow distant because a spouse is spending too much time doing something else, like working. When this happens, it can be because the working spouse feels significance at work, and at home they are not appreciated. Keep this in mind, and make your partner number one!

Love and Connection is something we all strive for. Whether you are single or committed, we seek out love and connection. Often times we have the connection, but we don’t have that love. And when we have the love, it isn’t coming from our partner.

Growth may be one of the most important needs. You have to grow to stay alive. Your relationship is like a plant; if you don’t water it and give it sunlight, it won’t grow. When it doesn’t grow, it dies. You have to strive to grow your relationship. Evolve with your partner and keep the relationship energized and lively.

Contribution is also a very significant need. Evolution has proven that when something doesn’t contribute, it is eliminated. People have the need to contribute and give to others. Accept the contributions and share with your partner what you have to give.

As you can see, many of these needs are very closely related. When you can satisfy at least 3 of these needs with one action, you will become addicted to that action. That addiction will grow with each need you can add.

Once you understand the 6 Human Needs, develop those needs and learn what your partner wants specifically. Ask your partner what elicits emotion and what emotions they feel when you say something, do something, or what name you call them. You will be shocked at what you learn.

Following these tips are essential to success in any relationship, especially an intimate one. When you feel the pure joy and euphoria from a loving partner, you can easily satisfy all 6 of the Human Needs, and you will get addicted to that euphoric feeling!

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